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Finding the Balance between success, failure, work, rest, fun and life

Sometimes I wonder if I can be good at everything. I discovered through life experiences that I cannot be good at everything. Nobody can be good at everything. If I am good at playing football, it does not mean that I will be good at playing a flute. I am not even outstandingly good at even one thing that I do, let alone trying to be good at everything. I believe that It’s good to be successful when I can. But by trying too hard to succeed at everything, I end up creating unnecessary stress in my Life. It’s self-supporting to want to succeed, but self-defeating to need to succeed.The constant drive to be successful often leads me to compare and compete against others. That makes me pay too much attention to what other people are doing, instead of what I can do. Over time I learnt that I couldn’t be in line with what other people can do, or how well they do it. I only end up comparing and competing against something I have no control over.Very often, I have little or no control over my…

Have Less. Do Less. Be More

Have Less, Do Less, Be More. Slowing down is the key to connect with Yourself.

If you have to do something then Do what you Love.  Do What Energizes you. Do What you feel doing Do What brings you Joy Do What you really Need. Do What you Absolutely have to do. Do What makes you come Alive Do What expresses your presence Do what unleashes your creativity Do What you Are Be What You Are. Do Less, Have Less and Be More

Doubt - Suspicion - Slander - Backbiting

A suspicion is the feeling that someone(a person) has a intention of doing wrong or is doing wrong to you.
Doubt is a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction because of two or more possibilities. Doubt means that we have different possibilities in the mind about the correctness or otherwise about a thing. If we weigh the possibilities we would find that they are of equal or unequal weight.
If one possibility is heavier, then the other possibilities, it results in presumption or supposition. When one possibility is lighter in comparison to the other then it is called apprehension. When a possibility has more weight than the other possibilities it results in conviction. When there are no other possibilities and no doubt, it results in certainty. Certainty gives safety, clam and peace of mind.

In the Tasawwuff sufi/irfan traditions Suspicion in most cases and Doubt in some cases are an indication that the heart (Qalb) is affected with a spiritual disease.
Suspicion increases the fear o…

Types of Hyderabadi Biryani

Pakke Gosht ki Biryani, Dahi ki Chatni and Baigan aur tamatar ka SalanHyderabadi Biryani comes in different flavors and different styles of cooking it.

The Akhni is the secret sauce of the Biryani which consists of Meat with Masalas, Spices, Curd, Ginger and Garlic Paste, Red Mirchi Powder and lots of other ingredients that are marinated for few hours before being cooked.In Earlier times the aristocratic Hyderabadi families used to safeguard the Biryani making process by having trusted cooks and the girls in the family were not allowed into the kitchen during biryani making process to protect the secret sauce from going outside the family once the girls get married.In Hyderabad there are 2 ways a biryani is made, Pakhi(precooked)Akhni and Kachi(raw)Akhni.The Akhni is layered in slightly precooked basmati rice. When akhni is raw its called Kache gosht ki Biryani and if its precooked it is Pakke gosht ki Biryani.The Biryani with the layered akhni and rice are cooked on slow heat for a lo…

Ittar essential oil

Ittar is specially used during Eid and in ceremonies or in etiquette of welcoming the guests by apply it on their wrists or top of the hand. For Muslims its a recommended practice to apply ittar or flower essence before every prayer and especially during Eid Prayers. 
Attar also called Ittar is a essential oil derived from natural sources like flowers, spices, barks and roots. Most commonly these oils are extracted via distillation. The essence oils are then diluted in base oils of olive, sandalwood or almond and stored and aged from few months to ten years depending on the desired maturity of the essence. 

Natural attars are derived and matured through a delicate process of distillation and maturing and hence are costly. There are many synthetic attars made of chemicals available for cheap however they do not offer the healing properties the natural attars offer. 
It is said that Prophet Solomon(A.S) had the ability to converse with animals and plants and he spoke to flowers and documen…

A tale of Sheer Korma

Sheer khorma is a famous mouth watering sweet prepared on Eid ul-Fitr and is a traditional Muslim festive sweet for Eid celebrations across the Indian Sub Continent.Sheer Khorma is a Persian name for the Sheer(Milk) and Khurma(Dates) شير خرما‎Its main ingredients are butter or ghee fried sewiya/vermicelli, boiled and thickened milk, dates, ghee and sugar. Soaked, cut and ghee fried Dry fruits like dates, pistachios, almonds, Buchanania lanzan(chironji), cashew and raisins are added and sprinkled as toppings.Saffron, Cardamon, Clove and Rose water are added to enhance the flavor. The making process starts the previous night and its a slow and delicate process to prepare it to match the taste each year.

This special sweet is prepared in celebration of 1 month of fasting and is relished on the Eid Day after eid prayer and morning breakfast. It is usually served throughout the day to all the visiting guests. It is very popular sweet dish prepared and relished throughout the Indian Subconti…

Beliefs and Core Beliefs

Beliefs define our life. Belief is the conviction of something that one holds true. Belief is the root cause of all purpose and action that one takes.  Beliefs can be empowering or dis-empowering. It is crucial to adopt only beliefs that serve us and to let go of those beliefs that limit us.
Core beliefs operate in our unconscious. They can be empowering or dis-empowering, they work autonomously. We don't know they are there. Our good or unwanted behavior is driven by core beliefs. We can only see our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that these core beliefs produce. Awareness and Observation of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors  will lead to ones core beliefs.

One way to get to limiting core beliefs and replace them is through Shadow Work۔ Shadow work consists of uncovering core beliefs that do not serve us. There are many processes and rituals to help to  know the limiting core belief that can surface through observation of triggers, feelings, body sensations. Other ways are throu…

I am I and You are You.

I am incomparable and a unique being and you are incomparable and a unique being.
I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live upto your expectations and you are not in the world to live up to mine.
You are you and I am I, and if by chance we can agree with each other somewhere, its beautiful.
If not, you be yourself, I will be myself and lets accept each other and live in peace, else it cant be helped.

Trusting the unknown future

It's one thing to think about the uncertain future, and another thing to think about it so much unfavorably that you fill yourself with worry and stress over something that is not yet there and you haven't even experienced it yet.Noticing the unknown:
The difficulty of facing anything unknown arises because we are uncomfortable with the unknown and not necessarily because the unknown is frightening. Everyday and every moment we are actually facing the unknown that we don't even notice it in our comfort and attachment to certainty.
Need for Knowingness:
Many of us have our identities and lives are built around our “knowingness” in the comfort of safety and certainity, so tightly that we are stressed at facing  anything that is unknown, uncomfortable or has an unknown future.Cherishing the Present:
Our fear of the unknown manifests in a seemingly eternal feeling of worry,  stress and doom, however wasting time stressing out about the unknown and the future is time that could …

Hyderabad Mein Aisich Boltey - Baigan ke Bataan

Hyderabad Mein Aisich boltey - Baigan ke bataan
Bhook lagi toh - Dabake Lagri boltey
Khana hai toh - Biryani boltey
Peena hai toh - Irani Chai boltey
Nachna hai toh - Marfa boltey
Kuch Bhi Puche toh - Hau boltey
Nai hona toh - Nakko boltey
Thodi thodi bat ko - Party diyo bolte
Kaise hai puche toh - Zabardast boltey
Kam kaisa chalra puche toh - Chindiyaan boltey
Kam kaisa kara puche toh - Hiladiya boltey
Bohat acha Kare toh - Mout Daldiya Bolte
Rasta Puche toh - Seedha Jao boltey
Nai Samjhe toh - Kiya hai Ki Kiya nai ki boltey.
Tension aya toh - Lite lelo boltey
Gussa Kare toh - Janedo boltey
Dimag kharab hogaya toh - Ma ki Kirkiri boltey
Dhamkae toh - Aando boltey
Ladliye toh - Utah patak boltey
Mu phutagaya toh - Dukaan tudgai boltey.
Jootey Khae toh - Dhekletoun boltey
Dil Puchey toh - Jaan lelo boltey
Kuch Kho gaya toh - Jando boltey
Kab ara puche toh - Abich aroun boltey
Kaan hai puche toh - Koney pe hun boltey
Nai aaye toh - Handle diya boltey
Kuch puche toh - Nai malum boltey

Dealing with Worrisome Thoughts

Many of our fears and anxieties come from thinking what could possibly go wrong in future, an imagination that becomes cyclical and causes suffering even before anything imagined has actually taken place.  
What if I fall ill?. What if a loved one falls I'll?.  What if the situation does not improve. How will I earn money. How will I and my family survive. Etc, etc.
These are thoughts that happen in the mind on their own and maybe valid.  however the suffering starts when one identifies and gets hooked into the cyclical and obbessive nature of these thoughts.
There is an underlying assumption in the mind that if I am not worrying about these thoughts, I am not controlling my life,  I am not safe and I need to do something about it. However these thoughts are imagined in the future, there is nothing to address now except dealing with fear and anxiety comming from the  cyclical nature of these worrisome thoughts. Just like its difficult to find a black cat in a dark room especially if …

Sufi Zikr Ceremony - Awakening the Inner heart

Sufi Zikr Ceremony - Awakening the Inner Heart
For over thousands of years Sufi Mystics have studied the inner heart, explored the aspects of the ego, true self, soul, consciousness, transcendental states and how to ascend these states in the journey of the heart towards self-purification and transcendence to lead a life of Compassion, Sincerity, Authenticity, Truth and Love.
The Sufi Ceremony of Zikr(rememberence) is based on opening the inner heart, its divine essences and energy states. The Zikr ceremony involves meditation with Chants, Movement, Rhythm, Whirling, Sound, Silence, Drumming and Breathwork.
Zikr which means “rememberance” is activated through the heart by invoking the divine attributes of Allah (SWT) to experience the divine essence within the inner heart, resulting in experiencing the states of oneness, wonder, bliss, love, ecstasy and surrender.
Zikr ceremonies have a therapeutic effect on mind/emotion/body due to its positive effect on the psychoneuroimmunological resp…

Risk Taking leads to freedom

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool, To weep is to risk appearing sentimental. To reach out to another is to risk involvement, To expose feelings and thoughts is to risk exposing your true self. To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss. To love is to risk not being loved in return, To live is to risk dying, To hope is to risk despair, To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest  hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live freely.
Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.
Only a person who risks is free. The pessimist complains about the wind; The optimist expects it to change; And the realist adjusts the sails.  - William Arthur Ward