Higher Self and Selfwork

The nature of the higher self is pure awareness, an affectionate witnessing presence  that is unaffected by anything outside of it. The addition or subtraction of knowledge, skills, possessions and relations does not  affect it.  The higher self is worthy and whole and it's attributes are expressed  through self awareness as presence, values and character

All selfwork is re-alignment with the values that come from the higher self and manifesting them into life through integration and aligment with the concepts/ constructs of conditioning and beliefs.

Ego Traps on the Mystical Path

 On the sufi/irfan path of self Realisation, the seeker is never safe from the egoistic self which wants to preserve itself and its needs and desires. During the first stage of conquering nafs-e-ammara(the commanding self) there is a intense struggle against the egoistic worldly desires and the seeker finds some success with self control and self discipline.

The ego then eases this journey and helps the seeker see some more success in terms of good behavior and more self control. This is a essentially a trap by the ego. And as the seeker prematurely proceeds towards the second stage of conquering the nafs-e-lawama(the blaming self).

The ego self here waits with another trap and injects hypocrisy, arrogance and anger into the mind of the seeker against the teacher/master: “It says You are now as good as your master; not only do you know as much as he does, the way you behave is better. If he were able to apply what he teaches in his own lives he wouldn’t be half of what you are. You don’t need his preaching or his advice anymore. Now let people see your wisdom and your deeds so that you will be an example to them.

This leads to arrogance and taking the path of the ego and becomes a major diversion from the path of self realisation.

Longing of the Self

We long to discover the secrets and mysteries of our individual lives, to find our unique way of belonging to ourselves, others and to this world.

We struggle to find the innate treasure we were born with and to bring it to our existence. We long to share this treasure with others. We long to experience our oneness with all of creation. 

Selfcraft is a personal quest that focuses on the discovery of individual personal meaning and a way to contribute to life. This longing pulls us toward the heart, into our wild nature and the dark valley of our deepest needs. 

Alongside this longing to discover ourselves, lives an equally great fear of finding the very thing we are seeking. Somehow we know that doing so will shake up our lives, our sense of identity, our sense of security, our relationship to everything we hold as familiar and dear. 

But we also suspect that saying no to our deepest longings will mean self-imprisonment in a life that is too small. And a deeper voice within insists that finding and sharing our treasure is well worth any sacrifice.

Selfcraft Journey

And so we continue to struggle and search. We study and seek knowledge to find our value in the external. We go to counsellors to heal our emotional wounds. We go to health care providers to heal our bodies. We worship and go to priests to heal our souls. All of them help sometimes and somewhat.

However, the implicit and usually unconscious bargain we make with ourselves is that, yes, we want to be healed, we want to be made whole, we’re willing to go some distance, but we’re not willing to question the fundamental assumptions upon which our way of life has been built and conditioned both personally and societally. 

We continue to ignore the still, small, intuitive voice within. We’re not willing to risk losing all the identities we have acquired. We want more and more of the external to define us. And so our deepest longing is never fulfilled. Most often, it is never even meaningfully addressed. 

To uncover the secret of our self, we must journey into the unknown, deep into our own darkness and farther into an outer world of uncertainties. 

No one would casually choose such a journey and those who do, may find themselves and their treasure and gift within. 

SelfCraft - A personal journey of Self Discovery
Facilitator: Diyanat Ali
23 Jan - 31 Jan 2021
Nasik Dist, Maharashtra, India
To know more and join visit https://bit.ly/selfcraft

Loss of Self

 Loss of Self.

When we confine ourselves to the external things only, we lose touch with our true nature. Loss of Self and Self alienation is a shrouded misfortune suffered by millions of humans in a culture that exclusively centers around outer accomplishments.
The costs of this self-abandonment are seen in every aspect of the misfortunes of human life. This Loss of self is experienced as an emptiness at our center, a feeling that our lives don't make sense, a sense that something essential is missing.
The experience of self-loss can be troubling and confusing. Not knowing how to connect with our inner self, we deny its very presence to lessen the pain. But this alienation is difficult to suppress or eliminate.

selfcraft loss of self

Still, the self stirs out from its concealed profundities, unendingly calling, pushing up like a plant through the cracks in the concrete wall of our lives. We catch glimpses of our self externally and in our dreams, in our fantasies, the people we worship, the poems we love, the books we read, and in the glimpses of nature, in sunsets and sunrises and the stillness of the oceans.
When we abandon ourselves, we have a hard time trusting ourselves, we don't value ourselves, we don't act in our own best interest, we hide parts of us, we hide our feelings and needs, our beliefs, and our ideas – all to fit in the external world or please others? We diminish or discount ourselves because we think we don't really matter. In this bargain, we disconnect and oppress ourselves. We suffer Self Loss.
Many of us long to connect with ourselves; however, we are unaware of the path to take. There are many known and unknown fears on the path that stop us from trying enough. We fear uncertainty. We fear what will befall us? What will happen to our well-deserved identities? What will happen to our accomplishments and accumulations? What will happen to our positions? What will others say?.
We continue to feel our own profound yearning and tend to commend or compare with other's achievements. We continue pursuing self-improvement guides and going to self-advancement programs, thinking it will help us discover our true selves someday. All these support, but barely do they remove all the veils of obscurity fully. When the self is heard and seen but not liberated, we fall into distress and despair.
Yet we frantically and desperately seek to connect with the self and to live the life that awaits us inside us. We yearn to contribute and make the world a better place. But it often seems we are drifting further away from these aspirations. It breaks our hearts to see the inward hopelessness in widespread human wretchedness and the ecological degradation around us. Our collective dread and gloom erupt as blame, anger, and despair the world over.
Every day we are lost in the thousand and one interruptions and distractions that stifle the self's internal cry. Frequently these distractions are in the form of addictions of consumerism, junk and binge eating, substance abuse, alcohol addiction, Withdrawal from life, Chain Smoking, Compulsive Sex, Pornography, Workaholism, fundamentalism, Risky thrill-seeking, gambling, and excessive TV watching or internet addiction, all of these contribute further to the alienation of the self and deterioration of our humane world.
Self Loss also shows up in emotional and relationship issues. In our tensions and fears, in the despondencies and diversions. Yet the alienation from the self is more than a mid-life crisis or an emotional meltdown. Loss of self is a major issue humans face. It is an unseen problem at the center of our human misfortunes.
For it's not just our distractions and addictions that emerge from self-loss; the crises of our external world can be traced there as well. When we become alienated from our true inner nature, we lose our authenticity. We lose regard for our own image and those of others, resulting in collective oppression and hopelessness in our world as a direct consequence of collective self-abandonment.
When we lose touch with ourselves, we create an external image to relate with. We don't have the foggiest idea about who we are and what we are good for. This very absence of self-connection, a sense of purpose and belonging further increases injustice and oppression against the self.
We must now face and confront this brutal reality that neither education nor organized religion or science will save us from our self-inflicted misfortunes. Our technological advances, psychotherapies, politics, and religious fundamentalism have led us away from our own wholeness and away from the self, from harmony within ourselves, between each other, and between us and the humane world.
It is time now for a radical shift, one that can begin within the wild reaches of our individual existences of us getting deeper and asking whether our selves may know something that will help us restore our connection, belonging, wholeness, presence, peace, and love.
Come, be part of the selfcraft journey and rediscover and re-integrate your long-forgotten self.
SelfCraft - A Quest for Self Discovery
Facilitator: Diyanat Ali
23 Jan - 31 Jan 2021
Nasik Dist, Maharashtra, India

To know more and be part of selfcraft visit https://bit.ly/selfcraft

Finding the Balance between success, failure, work, rest, fun and life

Sometimes I wonder if I can be good at everything. I discovered through life experiences that I cannot be good at everything. Nobody can be good at everything. If I am good at playing football, it does not mean that I will be good at playing a flute. I am not even outstandingly good at even one thing that I do, let alone trying to be good at everything. 

I believe that It’s good to be successful when I can. But by trying too hard to succeed at everything, I end up creating unnecessary stress in my Life. It’s self-supporting to want to succeed, but self-defeating to need to succeed.

The constant drive to be successful often leads me to compare and compete against others. That makes me pay too much attention to what other people are doing, instead of what I can do. Over time I learnt that I couldn’t be in line with what other people can do, or how well they do it. I only end up comparing and competing against something I have no control over.

Very often, I have little or no control over my own abilities. Sometimes I associate my worth with the work I can do. Over time I understood that I don’t need to be successful to be worthwhile. Being alive and able to enjoy Life makes my Life worthwhile. Nothing else really matters. When I get too busy trying to be successful, I don't get time left over for doing things I enjoy in Life.

At times I am afraid of failing that i get scared of even trying anything new. At other times my Life becomes boring because I am only doing things I know that I can succeed at, and I seldom try new experiences. 

wanting to succeed.

This Fear of failure has stopped me from enjoying new things I want to do. I also worry so much about failing, that I am not able to concentrate fully on what I am attempting to achieve, and I end up making many mistakes and fail eventually at many things I try.

I found that the best way to learn how to do something is to just do it by being open to outcomes. The other way to succeed is to practice, practice, practice and to learn from my mistakes. 

I also found that mistakes and failure are not avoidable and also not awful; they are just a regular part of my learning. As a Human, I fail and make mistakes all the time. If I make a mistake, it doesn’t make me less than anyone else or worthless. It proves that I am just a normal human being.

I continue to strive to be good at what I love doing and also try out exploring new things, where I allow myself to be in balance of both enjoying work, rest and having fun and peace in life.

Have Less. Do Less. Be More

Have Less, Do Less, Be More.
Slowing down is the key to connect with Yourself.

If you have to do something then
Do what you Love. 
Do What Energizes you.
Do What you feel doing
Do What brings you Joy
Do What you really Need.
Do What you Absolutely have to do.
Do What makes you come Alive
Do What expresses your presence
Do what unleashes your creativity
Do What you Are
Be What You Are.
Do Less, Have Less and Be More

Doubt - Suspicion - Slander - Backbiting

A suspicion is the feeling that someone(a person) has a intention of doing wrong or is doing wrong to you.

Doubt is a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction because of two or more possibilities. Doubt means that we have different possibilities in the mind about the correctness or otherwise about a thing. If we weigh the possibilities we would find that they are of equal or unequal weight.

If one possibility is heavier, then the other possibilities, it results in presumption or supposition. When one possibility is lighter in comparison to the other then it is called apprehension. When a possibility has more weight than the other possibilities it results in conviction. When there are no other possibilities and no doubt, it results in certainty. Certainty gives safety, clam and peace of mind.

In the Tasawwuff sufi/irfan traditions Suspicion in most cases and Doubt in some cases are an indication that the heart (Qalb) is affected with a spiritual disease.

Suspicion increases the fear of people, pessimism and misguided thinking, hence resulting in unwanted anger, anxiety, sadness and resentment, slander and backbiting that destroys the body, mind, and soul. Suspicion robs health from the body, peace from the mind, and weakens the soul.

There is a verse in the quran which reads "O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, for some suspicion is a grave sin; and do not spy (on one another), nor backbite (against one another). Would any of you love to eat the flesh of his dead brother? - 49:12 - Quran

The Quran calls to avoid suspicion (zann, also translated "conjecture"), spying on others to find faults (tajassus), and backbiting (ghibah). The Quran considers backbiting and slandering someone in their absence so sinful and abhorrent that it is compared to "eating the flesh of ones brother".

Suspicion leads to jealousy, hatred, slander and backbiting. slander and backbiting are repugnant to the intelligence, and to the heart, to humanity and conscience, to human nature, and social brotherhood/sisterhood.

Slander and Backbiting is a shameful weapon and most used by people of enmity, envy, and obstinacy; no self-respecting, honorable human being would ever demean themselves by resorting to such a vile weapon.

Backbiting consists in speaking about an absent person in a way that would repel or annoy him or her if he or she were present and were to hear. If the words uttered are true, that is backbiting; if they are not, this is both backbiting and slander and, therefore, is a doubly loathsome sinful behaviour.

Avoiding Suspicion, slander, backbiting to keep a peaceful and calm heart and mind.

In the prayer Dua of Makarimul Akhlaq the supplication for Noble Moral Character Imam Zainul Abideen (a.s) says:

أللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى مُحَمَّد وَآلِ مُحَمَّد
“O Allah(SWT), bless Muhammad(SAWS) and Muhammad’s Household(A.S)

وَأَبْدِلْنِي مِنْ بِغْضَةِ أَهْلِ الشَّنَئانِ الْمَحَبَّةَ
and replace for me the animosity of the people of hatred with love”.

وَمِنْ ظِنَّةِ أَهْلِ الصَّلاَحِ الثِّقَةَ،
“And (replace) the suspicion of the people of righteousness with trust/confidence

وَمِنْ عَدَاوَةِ الأَدْنَيْنَ الْوَلايَةَ،
“And the enmity of those close with friendship

In this Supplication Imam Zainul Abideen (a.s) is saying to us that we should ask Gods Support to grant people to love us instead of hate us, and affection instead of envy.

This Dua focuses on cultivating Love, Compassion, Confidence, Friendship as noble manners in the society.

1. Transformation of hate to love
2. Transformation of jealousy to compassion
3. Wanting confidence in place of suspicion
4. Friendship in place of enmity
5. Devotion in place of disrespect from relatives

Dua of Makarimul Akhlaq - https://www.al-islam.org/supplications-month-ramadhan/duaa-makarimul-akhlaq-honorable-morals

Types of Hyderabadi Biryani

Pakke Gosht ki Biryani, Dahi ki Chatni and Baigan aur tamatar ka Salan

Hyderabadi Biryani comes in different flavors and different styles of cooking it.

The Akhni is the secret sauce of the Biryani which consists of Meat with Masalas, Spices, Curd, Ginger and Garlic Paste, Red Mirchi Powder and lots of other ingredients that are marinated for few hours before being cooked.

In Earlier times the aristocratic Hyderabadi families used to safeguard the Biryani making process by having trusted cooks and the girls in the family were not allowed into the kitchen during biryani making process to protect the secret sauce from going outside the family once the girls get married.

In Hyderabad there are 2 ways a biryani is made, Pakhi(precooked)Akhni and Kachi(raw)Akhni.

The Akhni is layered in slightly precooked basmati rice. When akhni is raw its called Kache gosht ki Biryani and if its precooked it is Pakke gosht ki Biryani.

The Biryani with the layered akhni and rice are cooked on slow heat for a long period of time on low heat for the Dum(pressure) which cooks and softens akhni and rice

Pakhi Akhni is easy to make and does not require the precision as the akhni is separately cooked and then layered with precooked rice.

The Kachi Akhni Biryani is more delicious than the Paki Akhi Biryani and requires Mastery and a good amount of experience to know the proportion of heat, time and dum(pressure) given to a biryani.

A Master cook can just know by the aroma the different stages the biryani is in and when it is ready to serve. The Biryani is usually served with dahi ki chatni and baigan ka salan or Mirchi ka salan.

Ittar essential oil

Ittar is specially used during Eid and in ceremonies or in etiquette of welcoming the guests by apply it on their wrists or top of the hand. For Muslims its a recommended practice to apply ittar or flower essence before every prayer and especially during Eid Prayers. 

Attar also called Ittar is a essential oil derived from natural sources like flowers, spices, barks and roots. Most commonly these oils are extracted via distillation. The essence oils are then diluted in base oils of olive, sandalwood or almond and stored and aged from few months to ten years depending on the desired maturity of the essence. 

Natural attars are derived and matured through a delicate process of distillation and maturing and hence are costly. There are many synthetic attars made of chemicals available for cheap however they do not offer the healing properties the natural attars offer. 

It is said that Prophet Solomon(A.S) had the ability to converse with animals and plants and he spoke to flowers and documented their healing properties.  Prophet Mohammed(SAWS) loved essences and its his recommended practice (Sunnah) for Muslims to apply attars before prayers. 

These attar essences are used to attain different emotional temperament as they contain mercy and compassion of Allah(SWT) bestowed to all creation.   The essence carries a symbolic meaning to reveal each individuals true inner essence for purification of the heart.  Saints and spiritual aspirants adorn themselves with these essence to assist them in their journey towards enlightenment in many traditions. 

The Islamic prophetic medicine and the Sufi traditions use specific essences for specific healing purposes. In the esoteric tasawuff path such as the sufi/irfan traditions the essence of the attars reminds one of their own inner purity and the struggle required towards purification of the soul, to remove imbalances and to attain ones true nature/essence. 

Some of the attars with spiritual and healing significance that are commonly used in Muslims households are amber, frankincense(loban), sandal, musk, jasmine, hina, oud, jannat-ul-firduas. Rose is Considered the mother of all attars.

Hyderabad has a good tradition of attar shops since its 400 years history and there are currently over 100 such shops in the city selling variety of attars and perfumes. I have a good collection of attars and essential oils and have been using them since childhood. I even used to put up a stall to sell attars at Charminar during my school/college days to earn pocket money. 

#ittar #attar #perfumes #eidmubarak #essence #essentialoil

A tale of Sheer Korma

Sheer khorma is a famous mouth watering sweet prepared on Eid ul-Fitr and is a traditional Muslim festive sweet for Eid celebrations across the Indian Sub Continent.

Sheer Khorma is a Persian name for the Sheer(Milk) and Khurma(Dates) شير خرما‎

Its main ingredients are butter or ghee fried sewiya/vermicelli, boiled and thickened milk, dates, ghee and sugar. Soaked, cut and ghee fried Dry fruits like dates, pistachios, almonds, Buchanania lanzan(chironji), cashew and raisins are added and sprinkled as toppings.

Saffron, Cardamon, Clove and Rose water are added to enhance the flavor. The making process starts the previous night and its a slow and delicate process to prepare it to match the taste each year.

This special sweet is prepared in celebration of 1 month of fasting and is relished on the Eid Day after eid prayer and morning breakfast. It is usually served throughout the day to all the visiting guests. It is very popular sweet dish prepared and relished throughout the Indian Subcontinent. I did not find this dish prepared anywhere in UAE, Iraq and Iran during my travels.

The Sheer Korma has a history and fusion of food cultures from across Asia and started its journey from the Arabian desert as Arabs used to eat dates with milk during fastings. The vermicelli came with Marco Polo's arrival in India who brought noodles from China. The dessert was adapted by the Mughal royal chefs or khansamas.

The Sheer Khurma is a tale and testimony of the unification of cross cultural food habits and adds the sweetness and love to humanity beyond any geographical, religious or political divisions.

Eid Mubarak 💞

#SheerKorma #MeethiEid #EidMubarak

Beliefs and Core Beliefs

Beliefs define our life. Belief is the conviction of something that one holds true. Belief is the root cause of all purpose and action that one takes.  Beliefs can be empowering or dis-empowering. It is crucial to adopt only beliefs that serve us and to let go of those beliefs that limit us.

Core beliefs operate in our unconscious. They can be empowering or dis-empowering, they work autonomously. We don't know they are there. Our good or unwanted behavior is driven by core beliefs. We can only see our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that these core beliefs produce. Awareness and Observation of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors  will lead to ones core beliefs.

One way to get to limiting core beliefs and replace them is through Shadow Work۔ Shadow work consists of uncovering core beliefs that do not serve us. There are many processes and rituals to help to  know the limiting core belief that can surface through observation of triggers, feelings, body sensations. Other ways are through imagery, journaling, hypnosis, Psychotherapy CBT, REBT etc. 

According to Albert Ellis and REBT, the beliefs that upset us are all variations of three common irrational beliefs that contain a demand, either about ourselves, other people, or the world in general. 

These beliefs are known as “The Three Basic Musts.” and are as follows:

1) I must do well and win the approval of others for my performances or else I am no good.

2) Other people must treat me considerately, fairly and kindly, and in exactly the way I want them to treat me. If they don’t, they are no good and they deserve to be condemned and punished.

3) I must get what I want, when I want it; and I must not get what I don’t want. It’s terrible if I don’t get what I want, and I can’t stand it.

One can overcome these 3 musts by having unconditional acceptance. 

(1)        unconditional self-acceptance;
(2)        unconditional other-acceptance; and
(3)        unconditional life-acceptance. 

Getting in touch with the core beliefs with acceptance, self compassion, kindness and love starts the healing and change journey towards replacing limiting beliefs that no longer serve us. This is done with just observing ones feelings, emotions and sensations with no judgement, accept them with kindness and replace them with self awareness and mindfulness practice of better beliefs.

A good way is to get in touch with a coach, counselor or psychologist who does shadow work or work related with uncovering limiting core beliefs through psychotherapy 

I am I and You are You.

I am incomparable and a unique being and you are incomparable and a unique being.

I do my thing and you do your thing.

I am not in this world to live upto your expectations and you are not in the world to live up to mine.

You are you and I am I, and if by chance we can agree with each other somewhere, its beautiful.

If not, you be yourself, I will be myself and lets accept each other and live in peace, else it cant be helped.

Trusting the unknown future

It's one thing to think about the uncertain future, and another thing to think about it so much unfavorably that you fill yourself with worry and stress over something that is not yet there and you haven't even experienced it yet.

Noticing the unknown:
The difficulty of facing anything unknown arises because we are uncomfortable with the unknown and not necessarily because the unknown is frightening. Everyday and every moment we are actually facing the unknown that we don't even notice it in our comfort and attachment to certainty.

Need for Knowingness:
Many of us have our identities and lives are built around our “knowingness” in the comfort of safety and certainity, so tightly that we are stressed at facing  anything that is unknown, uncomfortable or has an unknown future.

Cherishing the Present:
Our fear of the unknown manifests in a seemingly eternal feeling of worry,  stress and doom, however wasting time stressing out about the unknown and the future is time that could be better spent cherishing the present.

Trusting the unknown:
There is a also a great contentment in the beingness of knowing that you’ll know what you need to know when you need to know it and the wisdom that there are things that can just be felt and not known ever.

Trusting the unknown gives inner peace and gives the serenity that we will be able to do our best possible in every moment.

The Now as forever moment:
Think of the "Now" moment as a container in which the future will also arrive in the present moment and that you are always fully supported and equipped to embrace it all the time and when you feel you are not,  be open to life's outcomes and surrender to "What Is".

#trusting #unknow #stress #worry #now #present #future #surrender

Hyderabad Mein Aisich Boltey - Baigan ke Bataan

Hyderabad Mein Aisich boltey - Baigan ke bataan

Bhook lagi toh - Dabake Lagri boltey
Khana hai toh - Biryani boltey
Peena hai toh - Irani Chai boltey
Nachna hai toh - Marfa boltey
Kuch Bhi Puche toh - Hau boltey
Nai hona toh - Nakko boltey
Thodi thodi bat ko - Party diyo bolte
Kaise hai puche toh - Zabardast boltey
Kam kaisa chalra puche toh - Chindiyaan boltey
Kam kaisa kara puche toh - Hiladiya boltey
Bohat acha Kare toh - Mout Daldiya Bolte
Rasta Puche toh - Seedha Jao boltey
Nai Samjhe toh - Kiya hai Ki Kiya nai ki boltey.
Tension aya toh - Lite lelo boltey
Gussa Kare toh - Janedo boltey
Dimag kharab hogaya toh - Ma ki Kirkiri boltey
Dhamkae toh - Aando boltey
Ladliye toh - Utah patak boltey
Mu phutagaya toh - Dukaan tudgai boltey.
Jootey Khae toh - Dhekletoun boltey
Dil Puchey toh - Jaan lelo boltey
Kuch Kho gaya toh - Jando boltey
Kab ara puche toh - Abich aroun boltey
Kaan hai puche toh - Koney pe hun boltey
Nai aaye toh - Handle diya boltey
Kuch puche toh - Nai malum boltey
Kaiku Puche toh - Aisich boltey
Nai sunna hai toh - Baigan ko bolo boltey
Dubara Puche toh- Akhalmand ku ishara kafi boltey
Cheating Kare toh - totrandi Kara boltey
Get lost ko - bhad mein ja boltey
Samaj mein nai ara toh - Baigan ke bataan nako karo bolte.
Kuch recommend Kare toh - try karo pareshan hojate boltey
Kuan hai tobhi puche toh  - Ustaad hoon boltey
Bachpane dhikae toh  - Loundpana Kara Boltey
Expert Bataan Katey toh - Khapit boltey
Aise waise bataan kare toh - Haula boltey
Haule Bataan Kare toh - Kirak boltey
Kirak Bataan Kare toh - Nikalgaya Bolte
Niklewey Bataan Kare toh - Khataenaak Bolte
Dirty Bataan karey toh - Ghaleez boltey
Galeez Bataan karey toh - Chichora boltey
Bade Batan Kare toh - Motabari  boltey
Ziyada boletoh - Advance bataan boltey
Boltey rahe toh - Nak mein dam boltey
Ziyada Bataan Kare toh - Bouran Kara boltey.
Aisa cheesaan likhne toh - Time pass boltey
#hyderabad #hyderabadi #baigan #hyderabadibataan #hyderabadilingo #deccani

Dealing with Worrisome Thoughts

Many of our fears and anxieties come from thinking what could possibly go wrong in future, an imagination that becomes cyclical and causes suffering even before anything imagined has actually taken place.  

What if I fall ill?. What if a loved one falls I'll?.  What if the situation does not improve. How will I earn money. How will I and my family survive. Etc, etc.

These are thoughts that happen in the mind on their own and maybe valid.  however the suffering starts when one identifies and gets hooked into the cyclical and obbessive nature of these thoughts.

There is an underlying assumption in the mind that if I am not worrying about these thoughts, I am not controlling my life,  I am not safe and I need to do something about it. However these thoughts are imagined in the future, there is nothing to address now except dealing with fear and anxiety comming from the  cyclical nature of these worrisome thoughts. Just like its difficult to find a black cat in a dark room especially if there is no cat.

Since these worrisome thoughts are automatic they can't be stopped by willpower or distractions or trying to find a solution to an imagined situation. The way is to allow these thoughts and see them for what they are "perceived imagination" and not identify or get attached to them. 

One can exercise choice of getting grounded and centered to ones sorrrundings, breath and the body to choose to direct ones awareness to the inner stillness and presence and come to the "Now" moment . In this still and now moment of awareness there are no imagined problems to deal with and the mind rests.

Know that the power of inner presence has immense capability and strength to deal with anything that may come up in the here and now as when it happens and one can continue to take self care with practical and existantial matters with awareness and a calm inner presence.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. - Victor Frankl

Stay in awareness, in inner stillness and presence.

Sufi Zikr Ceremony - Awakening the Inner heart

Sufi Zikr Ceremony - Awakening the Inner Heart

For over thousands of years Sufi Mystics have studied the inner heart, explored the aspects of the ego, true self, soul, consciousness, transcendental states and how to ascend these states in the journey of the heart towards self-purification and transcendence to lead a life of Compassion, Sincerity, Authenticity, Truth and Love.

The Sufi Ceremony of Zikr(rememberence) is based on opening the inner heart, its divine essences and energy states. The Zikr ceremony involves meditation with Chants, Movement, Rhythm, Whirling, Sound, Silence, Drumming and Breathwork.

Zikr which means “rememberance” is activated through the heart by invoking the divine attributes of Allah (SWT) to experience the divine essence within the inner heart, resulting in experiencing the states of oneness, wonder, bliss, love, ecstasy and surrender.

Zikr ceremonies have a therapeutic effect on mind/emotion/body due to its positive effect on the psychoneuroimmunological response and promotes calmness, joy, peace and bliss in the participants.

The Zikr Ceremony is open to all, irrespective of religion, caste or creed or beliefs.

Come, come, whoever you are,
Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving,
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Even if you have broken your vows a thousand times
It doesn't matter
Come, come yet again, come - Rumi

Dress Code: Comfortable Clothes that allowing sitting on the ground. Participants can use a chair also.

About the Facilitator:
Diyanat Ali is a trainer, educator, facilitator and a coach but more passionately he is a Salik (wayfarer) on Sayr wa Suluk (Spiritual Wayfaring) hailing from a traditional Hyderabadi family of Syed’s.
Diyanat has travelled extensively through India, Iraq and Iran learning the principles and practices of the esoteric path of Spiritual Wayfaring in Sufi / Tasawwuf / Irfan Traditions.

Risk Taking leads to freedom

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool,
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement,
To expose feelings and thoughts is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest  hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.

He may avoid suffering and sorrow,
but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow or live freely.

Chained by his servitude he is a slave who has forfeited all freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.
The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
And the realist adjusts the sails. 
- William Arthur Ward

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