Ego Traps on the Mystical Path

 On the sufi/irfan path of self Realisation, the seeker is never safe from the egoistic self which wants to preserve itself and its needs and desires. During the first stage of conquering nafs-e-ammara(the commanding self) there is a intense struggle against the egoistic worldly desires and the seeker finds some success with self control and self discipline.

The ego then eases this journey and helps the seeker see some more success in terms of good behavior and more self control. This is a essentially a trap by the ego. And as the seeker prematurely proceeds towards the second stage of conquering the nafs-e-lawama(the blaming self).

The ego self here waits with another trap and injects hypocrisy, arrogance and anger into the mind of the seeker against the teacher/master: “It says You are now as good as your master; not only do you know as much as he does, the way you behave is better. If he were able to apply what he teaches in his own lives he wouldn’t be half of what you are. You don’t need his preaching or his advice anymore. Now let people see your wisdom and your deeds so that you will be an example to them.

This leads to arrogance and taking the path of the ego and becomes a major diversion from the path of self realisation.

Longing of the Self

We long to discover the secrets and mysteries of our individual lives, to find our unique way of belonging to ourselves, others and to this world.

We struggle to find the innate treasure we were born with and to bring it to our existence. We long to share this treasure with others. We long to experience our oneness with all of creation. 

Selfcraft is a personal quest that focuses on the discovery of individual personal meaning and a way to contribute to life. This longing pulls us toward the heart, into our wild nature and the dark valley of our deepest needs. 

Alongside this longing to discover ourselves, lives an equally great fear of finding the very thing we are seeking. Somehow we know that doing so will shake up our lives, our sense of identity, our sense of security, our relationship to everything we hold as familiar and dear. 

But we also suspect that saying no to our deepest longings will mean self-imprisonment in a life that is too small. And a deeper voice within insists that finding and sharing our treasure is well worth any sacrifice.

Selfcraft Journey

And so we continue to struggle and search. We study and seek knowledge to find our value in the external. We go to counsellors to heal our emotional wounds. We go to health care providers to heal our bodies. We worship and go to priests to heal our souls. All of them help sometimes and somewhat.

However, the implicit and usually unconscious bargain we make with ourselves is that, yes, we want to be healed, we want to be made whole, we’re willing to go some distance, but we’re not willing to question the fundamental assumptions upon which our way of life has been built and conditioned both personally and societally. 

We continue to ignore the still, small, intuitive voice within. We’re not willing to risk losing all the identities we have acquired. We want more and more of the external to define us. And so our deepest longing is never fulfilled. Most often, it is never even meaningfully addressed. 

To uncover the secret of our self, we must journey into the unknown, deep into our own darkness and farther into an outer world of uncertainties. 

No one would casually choose such a journey and those who do, may find themselves and their treasure and gift within. 

SelfCraft - A personal journey of Self Discovery
Facilitator: Diyanat Ali
23 Jan - 31 Jan 2021
Nasik Dist, Maharashtra, India
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Loss of Self

 Loss of Self.

When we confine ourselves to the external things only, we lose touch with our true nature. Loss of Self and Self alienation is a shrouded misfortune suffered by millions of humans in a culture that exclusively centers around outer accomplishments.
The costs of this self-abandonment are seen in every aspect of the misfortunes of human life. This Loss of self is experienced as an emptiness at our center, a feeling that our lives don't make sense, a sense that something essential is missing.
The experience of self-loss can be troubling and confusing. Not knowing how to connect with our inner self, we deny its very presence to lessen the pain. But this alienation is difficult to suppress or eliminate.

selfcraft loss of self

Still, the self stirs out from its concealed profundities, unendingly calling, pushing up like a plant through the cracks in the concrete wall of our lives. We catch glimpses of our self externally and in our dreams, in our fantasies, the people we worship, the poems we love, the books we read, and in the glimpses of nature, in sunsets and sunrises and the stillness of the oceans.
When we abandon ourselves, we have a hard time trusting ourselves, we don't value ourselves, we don't act in our own best interest, we hide parts of us, we hide our feelings and needs, our beliefs, and our ideas – all to fit in the external world or please others? We diminish or discount ourselves because we think we don't really matter. In this bargain, we disconnect and oppress ourselves. We suffer Self Loss.
Many of us long to connect with ourselves; however, we are unaware of the path to take. There are many known and unknown fears on the path that stop us from trying enough. We fear uncertainty. We fear what will befall us? What will happen to our well-deserved identities? What will happen to our accomplishments and accumulations? What will happen to our positions? What will others say?.
We continue to feel our own profound yearning and tend to commend or compare with other's achievements. We continue pursuing self-improvement guides and going to self-advancement programs, thinking it will help us discover our true selves someday. All these support, but barely do they remove all the veils of obscurity fully. When the self is heard and seen but not liberated, we fall into distress and despair.
Yet we frantically and desperately seek to connect with the self and to live the life that awaits us inside us. We yearn to contribute and make the world a better place. But it often seems we are drifting further away from these aspirations. It breaks our hearts to see the inward hopelessness in widespread human wretchedness and the ecological degradation around us. Our collective dread and gloom erupt as blame, anger, and despair the world over.
Every day we are lost in the thousand and one interruptions and distractions that stifle the self's internal cry. Frequently these distractions are in the form of addictions of consumerism, junk and binge eating, substance abuse, alcohol addiction, Withdrawal from life, Chain Smoking, Compulsive Sex, Pornography, Workaholism, fundamentalism, Risky thrill-seeking, gambling, and excessive TV watching or internet addiction, all of these contribute further to the alienation of the self and deterioration of our humane world.
Self Loss also shows up in emotional and relationship issues. In our tensions and fears, in the despondencies and diversions. Yet the alienation from the self is more than a mid-life crisis or an emotional meltdown. Loss of self is a major issue humans face. It is an unseen problem at the center of our human misfortunes.
For it's not just our distractions and addictions that emerge from self-loss; the crises of our external world can be traced there as well. When we become alienated from our true inner nature, we lose our authenticity. We lose regard for our own image and those of others, resulting in collective oppression and hopelessness in our world as a direct consequence of collective self-abandonment.
When we lose touch with ourselves, we create an external image to relate with. We don't have the foggiest idea about who we are and what we are good for. This very absence of self-connection, a sense of purpose and belonging further increases injustice and oppression against the self.
We must now face and confront this brutal reality that neither education nor organized religion or science will save us from our self-inflicted misfortunes. Our technological advances, psychotherapies, politics, and religious fundamentalism have led us away from our own wholeness and away from the self, from harmony within ourselves, between each other, and between us and the humane world.
It is time now for a radical shift, one that can begin within the wild reaches of our individual existences of us getting deeper and asking whether our selves may know something that will help us restore our connection, belonging, wholeness, presence, peace, and love.
Come, be part of the selfcraft journey and rediscover and re-integrate your long-forgotten self.
SelfCraft - A Quest for Self Discovery
Facilitator: Diyanat Ali
23 Jan - 31 Jan 2021
Nasik Dist, Maharashtra, India

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