Total Destiny

Belief in total destiny is oppression against ones free will as this belief states that everything is governed by God and Man has no Role in it due to lack of choice and freedom of will, that Man is not a free agent and is a helpless tool in divine hands like a toy.

An absolute belief in Destiny is Absurd as it makes life aimless and Vain. if Destiny is true then there is no merit or demerit in any mans action, and if everything is destined the very concept of Divine Justice becomes Null and Void as God himself destines and then punishes or rewards based on his chosen Destiny.

Divine Justice itself demands no compulsion and any action for reward or punishment has to be of a free agent, done out of own free will and choice.

Therefore Man is created by God but is a free agent and has complete free will and choice and can choose whatever he wants to do in Life.

Masks of Identity

unaware we wear many masks or roles in life that define us intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. These masks become our identity. 

The masks that are most difficult to detach from are of being a parent, son, daughter, employee, boss, student. Such masks tend to limit our potential and growth when we fail to grow out of them long after their roles are over.

Offering Help with Kindness and Respect

The very act of offering help to someone creates a temporary loss of power, status, self esteem and independence for the person receiving help and gain in power, status for the person offering help, leading to a power imbalance in the relationship.

its utmost important that when we help someone we practice good etiquette, establish a connection first by appreciating and acknowledging the person seeking help for their courage and show your humbleness.
always seek the consent to offer help even when asked to help, create a safe space, engage with care, kindness, empathy and compassion. and most importantly always help with an intention of being in service to the other with gratitude.

Self Realisation and the Egoistic Self.

On the sufi/irfan path of self Realisation, the seeker is never safe from the egoistic self which wants to preserve itself and its needs and desires. During the first stage of conquering nafs-e-ammara(the commanding self) there is a intense struggle against the egoistic worldly desires and the seeker finds some success with self control and self discipline. 

The ego then eases this journey and helps the seeker see some more success in terms of good behavior and more self control. This is a essentially a trap by the ego. And as the seeker prematurely proceeds towards the second stage of conquering the nafs-e-lawama(the blaming self). 

The ego self  waits here with another trap and injects hypocrisy, arrogance and anger into the mind of the seeker against the teacher/master: “It says You are now as good as your master; not only do you know as much as he does, the way you behave is better. If he were able to apply what he teaches in his own lives he wouldn’t be half of what you are. 

You don’t need his preaching or his advice anymore. Now let people see your wisdom and your deeds so that you will be an example to them. This leads to arrogance and taking the path of the ego and becomes a major diversion from the path of self realisation.

Union and Seperation

In Union there is fear of Annihilation.
In Separation there is hope of Union
The Sufi is not concerned with either
He only seeks the Beloved.

Trusting the Unknowing

The difficulty of understanding anything arises because we are uncomfortable with the unknown. Many of us have identities built around our “knowingness”
There is a great contentment in the beingness of knowing that you’ll know what you need to know when you need to know it and the wisdom that there are things that can just be felt and not known ever. Trusting the unknowing

Divine Love

For those who love Him,
He alone is their joy and sorrow,
He alone is their recompense and reward.
If anyone other than the Beloved is seen,
Then that is not love, it is mere passion.
Love is that flame which, when it blazes up, 

Consumes all but the Beloved Himself.

union with the divine

The human soul was in the vicinity of Divine presence, but later got separated. The soul now laments due to the pain of separation and is greatly eager for reunion; it is always moved by the desire of returning to its origin irrespective of the path or ambition it chooses. 

This attraction is due to the force of love (Ishq) which is only means to achieve union with the Divine.

Our Nurturing Presence

When we are centered in the consciousness of our nurturing presence, we are able to accept everything about ourselves and other people and embrace them in our wholeness and in their essence, as creative, resourceful, and capable of wholeness.

By embracing ourselves and other people in wholeness, we create the conditions within which we and they can change, heal or mature.

Egoistic False Self

The egoistic false self is the result of existential angst which is unable to trust in life. The false self sees through distortion of what it perceives and induces bias against seeing the perfection of what reality actually is.

This is basically a problem of perception and awareness, because the false self is unable to perceive the meaningfulness of life events and is unaware of the divine mercy operating in every detail of existence.

Masters of the various traditions have witnessed this reality and tried to communicate sometimes through metaphysical principles and sometimes through mystical poetry. Through the work of the path, the self becomes aware of its qualities and meanings that it had not been aware of.
The spiritual path work is a methodology based on the principles and insights of educating the human heart so it realizes the true nature of it's own self as an inherent part of and living in a creative, abundant, meaningful and beneficent reality.

healing through Wholesomeness

Wholesomeness is a state of presence in which one is being consciously aware and compassionately loving in the present moment with the self, another person or others, believing in and affirming their potential for their wholesomeness, whoever they are and wherever they are in life.

Healing through wholesomeness presence is a natural force from within that gives purpose, meaning and wholeness to life. It is not a process that can be done to another person but comes from that person uniquely because of their own potential of innate wholeness.

Fear Courage and a Drawing

Tried my hands on drawing and noticed that it was my fear of the thought that the drawing will be judged that had stopped me from trying it earlier.

Once I was open to the outcomes and didn't think about what others will say, the drawing came naturally.

I also realised it's not the absence of skill or technique that stops me from trying things  but the presence of fear and judgement.

This is is also applicable to many other areas of life, like for example learning to communicate has less to do with the method or technique and more to do with dealing with the fear of not being understood by others.

learning to speak publicly has less to do with content, body language and more to do with dealing with the anxiety of performance, being judged and passing out unconcious on stage.

what stops us from learning to drive a car has less to do with the method or technique and more to do with  the fear of injury and causing accidents.

in life it's mostly fear that stops us from trying things out. What is noteworthy is that most of our fears are imaginative and not realistic. Things never turn out based on our fears but we continue to believe in them and that's what's keeps them alive. In our heads. It's only with action that we can experientially come to know that our fears are overrated.

There is no difference between fear and courage. physiologically they feel the same. what sets courage apart from fear is taking action and a positive supportive environment.

Fear + positive action = Courage.

My Personal Bill of Rights

My Personal Bill of Rights

I have numerous choice in my life beyond mere survival.

I have a right to discover and know my Child Within.

I have a right to grieve over what I didn’t get that I needed or what I got that I didn't need or want.

I have a right to follow my own values and standards.

I have a right to recognize and accept my own value system as appropriate.

I have a right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe or violates my values.

I have a right to dignity and respect.

I have a right to make decisions.

I have a right to determine and honor my own priorities.

I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.

I have the right to terminate conversations with people who make me feel put down and humiliated.

I have the right not to be responsible for others’ behavior, actions, feelings or problems.

I have a right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.

I have a right to expect honesty from others.

I have a right to keep things confidential from others.

I have a right to expect confidentiality from others.

I have a right to all of my feelings.

I have a right to be angry at someone I love.

I have a right to be uniquely me, without feeling I’m not Good enough.

I have a right to feel scared and to say "I’m afraid.”

I have the right to experience and then let go of fear, guilt and shame.

I have a right to make decisions based on my feelings, my judgment or any reason that I chose.

I have a right to change my mind at any time.

I have the right to be happy.

I have a right to stability i.e., "roots” and stable healthy relationships of my choice.

I have the right to my own personal space and time needs.

There is no need to smile when I cry.

It is OK to be relaxed, playful and frivolous.

I have the right to be flexible and be comfortable with doing so

I have the right to change and grow.

I have the right to be open to improve communication skills so that I may be understood.

I have a right to make friends and be comfortable around people.

I have a right to be in a non-abusive environment.

I can be healthier than those around me.

I can take care of myself, no matter what.

I have the right to grieve over actual or threatened losses.

I have the right to trust others who earn my trust.

I have the right to forgive others and to forgive myself.

I have the right to give and to receive unconditional love.

I have the right to celebrate, experience and enjoy what I love

I have right to live for myself.

I have the right to be compassionate and kind to myself and others

I have the right to live joyfully and also right to experience pain

I have the right to grieve my past and current losses

I have the right to flourish, right to change and and right to be in the  flow when ever I want.

I have a right to become and adult whenever I want or I am ready

I have the right to reveal or hold information.

I have the right to share what I want when I want and to whom I want

I have right to let go of anything that is not serving my needs anytime.

I have the right to move away from painful people.

I have right to money, prosperity and a good life.

I have a right to reveal and hold, to possess and share as much as I want when and where I want

I have the right to redesign my life through selfwork.

I have the right to heal past traumas and pain

I have a right to self actualization and self transcendence

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